Posts tagged ‘Tips on Keeping Your Marriage Alive and Exciting’

I oftentimes see a husband come from work, plop a pillow by the TV, and watch while the woman cooks, tends to the children, and sets the table.  I agree that women by nature are more domesticated (Do I hear a violent reaction, from Holly?) He he he) But the problem is, both of them came from work and both of them are tired, so why is the husband not helping with the household chores?  (Thank God, hubby is not like that…lol…it’s the opposite for me. He is the chef; I do the small side chores.)

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But there are countless men, and I don’t mean locally only, who think the home is the turf of the woman and they seem reluctant to help with the household chores. A study conducted by Oxford University showed that many men are still not egalitarians..

Husbands should do housework simply because they should love their wives not only in words but also in action. One way of showing how much they love their wives is by doing housework without any prodding.

Aside from this compelling reason, here are more reasons why husbands should do housework:

1. They are the physically stronger sex so they should do housework! Housework, like washing clothes, vacuuming are physically demanding chores, so it’s only appropriate that husbands help because they are stronger and have more stamina.

2. Most wives nowadays are also career women. They work for a living and therefore share with whatever bills that are to be paid; the household chores therefore should also be shared because the wife comes home tired and needs all the rest she can get.

3. If the wife is not a career woman, taking care of the children alone is a daunting task that needs the cooperation and the helping hand of the husband. You could just imagine the wife getting up several times during the night to feed the baby and then getting up early again to feed the husband who will be going off to work. Only superwoman could stay awake almost all night long and be able to wake up early, day in and day out.

4. The husband should do housework so he’ll know how difficult a wife’s role is and would understand why sometimes a wife is so tired that she could not “cooperate” in the romantic overtures of the husband in bed.

5.  The wife cannot do all the household work.  This is because of so much to do and so little time. If the husband wants everything done in a day, then he has to chip in.

6. Housework is a form of exercise. Husbands who don’t have the time to exercise can adapt these methods and help the wife simultaneously as he exercises; two birds with one stone!

7. Sometimes, housework needs the expertise of a man, and who would be a better helper than the husband? Surely, the wife cannot call in the neighbors to replace a busted bulb, to paint the kitchen door, to attach bolts to a bedpost, etc. Only the husband can conscientiously do all these things, without cost. If couples want to save money, then the husband has to help in the housework.

Mentioned in the first paragraph, however, is the most important reason. A husband should do housework simply because he loves his wife and is willing to help her in all ways that he can.

They did it for love, they got married for love, and now they should work together in love.  Now, that’s true love for me.

What do you think, ladies , should your husbands help you with the chores?

And husbands,  are you willing to help your wives?

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The first question that comes to your mind is: Do we have to do something when we obviously love each other?” Wouldn’t that be sufficient to make our marriage exciting and alive?” True enough, but even lasting, eternal love needs constant nurturing and care. The glaring fact remains that, much as couples love each other, the only constant thing in this world is change. People grow physically, emotionally and psychologically.

In the process of “growing up”, you may grow apart or grow closer. It is therefore, your responsibility as couples, to ensure that your marriage remains exciting and alive by doing activities that draw you closer together and not the other way around. These activities are really very simple ones.

Here are some pointers on how to keep your marriage exciting and alive:

1. Talk to each other.

Express your thoughts and feelings to your partner. Be open with what you want without disrespecting the other.
Communication is still one of the major routes of true understanding.

Talk about your day to each other; the significant and the trivial parts, what made you smile, laugh, etc. When you genuinely talk to each other the relationship becomes more exciting.

Imagine not being able to tell your partner how good he/she makes you feel when you’re making love, wouldn’t that be a torture?

2. Do simple little things that would make him/her feel special.

The quotation “Simple little things mean a lot” is never outdated. Leave a note tucked in your spouse’s desk organizer telling him how much you love him. For husbands, give a rose to your wives on ordinary days. Bring home some gifts from her favorite bookstore.

3. Spend some time alone without any distraction.

Book a ticket for two to Paris, or if finances are low, then drive to the next town. Just be somewhere else that there would only be the two of you. Bring the children to their grandmother if needed, or hire a nanny. What is important is for you to spend time together.

If your work does not allow this, then do it at least once a week, or once a month, go out for a dinner date, swimming activity or spend an overnight stay in a local romantic hotel.

Capture the mood and ambiance that made you fall in love with each other.

4. Spring some surprises.

If you haven’t worn a sexy negligee before, then wear one and flaunt your assets to him.
Prepare and unexpected dinner by candlelight when he comes home. Wear his favorite perfume.

For husbands, you could come home with a bottle of champagne for some night bonding. You could think of many more surprises based on your wives likes and hobbies.

5. Be innovative in making love.

Making love is an art. Read books and watch movies together to add spice to your love making. It is always exciting to try the new position you have watched on DVD. Don’t be shy to tell your spouse of what you prefer to do and what arouses and satisfies you.

Enjoying and deriving sensual pleasure from making love is a must for married couples. You must be certain that both of you are satisfied and satiated afterwards.

The moment after the act itself is even more crucial. Women want to be cuddled and embraced most especially after the act.
Turning your back on your wives and snoring off to sleep is a demonstration of your insensitivity and callousness. This will make your wives feel used. Love her by being gentle and sweet even after the making love.

For wives, be expressive of your desire to be cuddled and pampered afterwards. Tell your husbands what you specifically desire.
They are not mind-readers; tell them what you want done: “Could you put your arms around me until we’ve fallen asleep?”

6. Do activities together.

Wouldn’t it be exciting to have your husband dancing with you in a friend’s party? Or your wife watching with you outdoors in one of your favorite football games? Household chores could also be shared. They are much more fun when you turn them into happy chores. Doing activities together strengthens the bonds of belongingness and love.

Even child birth activities should be participated in by husbands. This would create a firm, meaningful bond between wife, husband and child.

7. Bring out the child-like trait in you.

This means being creative, insouciant, carefree, jolly, and having an unyielding belief that you could conquer whatever challenges that would assail your married life. This will bring a lilt to your steps, a smile in your face and a zest to your relationship.

Play and be happy. Humor will always diffuse a humdrum existence. The daily problems that would come to you may dampen your spirit and knock the joy out of you, but being jovial and positive about things would perk up your marriage.

You’re the best judge on what would make your marriage exciting and alive. Be creative and devise ways to have excitement and joy with your partner.

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